Community Guidelines

Argue about setlists, not about people. Everything below is a longer way of saying that, plus the parts the law makes us spell out.Last updated 2026-08-17 · version you agree to at registration

Draft — not yet reviewed by counsel. Wording may change before it is relied on.

1. The short version

Be decent to people. Attack claims, not members.
Nothing sexual. Nothing that sexualises a minor, ever.
No one’s personal information but your own.
No selling drugs. No sourcing them. That line is bright.
Face value or less, or free. No payment links. Rides split fuel. Crash space is free.
Report what breaks these. Block who you like. Neither is a weapon.

2. The report reasons, in plain words

These are the reasons on the report form and what each one means. The last column is a target, not a promise: it is what the queue sorts by, and it is what we aim for.

Reason	What it means	Target
Child sexual abuse material `csam`	Sexual content involving a minor, or text soliciting it. Also grooming and enticement of a minor.	Immediate: hidden, held, reported to NCMEC
Intimate content without consent `nonconsensual_intimate`	Links to, descriptions of, or threats to share intimate content of a person who has not consented.	Within 48 hours
Threat to life or safety `threat_to_life`	A credible threat against a person, or content that puts someone in immediate danger.	Within 24 hours
Under 16 `underage_user`	An account that appears to belong to someone under the site age.	Within 24 hours
Self-harm or suicide content `self_harm`	Content that promotes, instructs or glamorises self-harm, suicide or disordered eating.	Within 24 hours
Violence or threats `violence`	Threats or incitement short of a threat to life.	Within a week
Harassment or bullying `harassment`	Targeting a person to intimidate, humiliate or wear them down. Repeated unwanted contact after a block or a clear no.	Within a week
Hate speech `hate`	Attacks on people for who they are.	Within a week
Personal information / doxxing `privacy`	Real names, addresses, plates, employers, phone numbers or handles of a person who did not put them here.	Within a week
Impersonation `impersonation`	Pretending to be a person, a band, a venue or the site.	Within a week
Sexual or explicit content `sexual`	This is not a place for it. None.	Within a week
Copyright `copyright`	A copyright notice under the DMCA. Use the copyright page for the required elements.	Within 72 hours
Selling, payment, or above face value `commerce`	Payment links or handles, tickets above face value, fares for rides, anything exchanged for crash space.	Within a week
Illegal activity `illegal`	Drug sales or sourcing, fraud, or other conduct that is illegal where it happens.	Within a week
Spam or advertising `spam`	Bulk, off-topic, or commercial posting.	Within a week
Something else `other`	Tell us which rule, or why it is illegal.	Within a week

3. Harassment, hate, threats

Disagreeing is fine. Being wrong loudly is fine. Following someone from thread to thread, piling on, contacting them after they blocked you or told you to stop, slurs, dehumanising anyone for who they are, threats — not fine. A credible threat to a person’s life or safety is the most urgent thing on the report form after abuse material, and we treat it that way. If someone is in danger right now, call 911; we are not a dispatcher.

4. Personal information and doxxing

Do not post information that identifies or locates a person who did not put it here themselves: real names, addresses, licence plates, employers, schools, phone numbers, handles on other sites, photos described in identifying detail. This applies to members and non-members alike.

Missed connections

No last names, plates, addresses, employers, phone numbers or off-site handles of the person you are looking for. Describe the moment, not the person’s identity.
One post per sighting. No follow-ups, no bumps, no “still looking”.
“That’s me, take it down” is unconditional. Report it with the privacy reason or write to us; it comes down, no questions.
Posts are hidden after 30 days automatically.
You must be 18+ to post or reply.

5. Sexual content and content that harms

There is no sexual content on this site. None. Not in posts, not in profiles, not in crew descriptions, not “tasteful”. Descriptions of, links to, or threats to share intimate content of a person without their consent come down within 48 hours of a valid request (see Intimate content without consent). Anything sexualising a minor, including text soliciting or grooming, is hidden immediately, preserved, and reported to the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children. We do not warn the poster first.

Also prohibited: content that promotes, instructs or glamorises suicide or self-harm, eating disorders, or dangerous stunts and challenges; and content that sells or sources drugs. Talking about harm reduction, recovery, or a friend who is struggling is not the same thing and is welcome. The Sober rooms exist for a reason.

6. The drug line

No selling. No sourcing. No “looking for”, no “holding”, no menus, no prices, no meet-me-at. Not in a post, a profile, a crew, a flyer, a miracle, a missed connection, a meetup description or a ride note. This is a bright line: it is a strike on first offence, and a ban on the second. Reminiscing, harm-reduction information and honest talk about the culture are not sales, and we can tell the difference.

7. Money

The miracle board: face value or less, or free. State the price if there is one. No payment links, no payment handles, no “DM for price”. Above face value is a report reason and a strike.
Vendor stalls and the Lot: listings only. Say what it is and where you will be. Deals close in the lot or by mail, not here. No checkout, no escrow, no prices for anything but the item.
Rides: fuel and tolls, split. Not a fare. Not a business.
Crash space: nothing changes hands. Not money, not goods, not services, not favours.
Flyers: a telephone pole, not a marketplace. Drum circles, food, kickdowns. Not products.

8. The Road: rides, crash space, meetups

These are 18+ to post or respond, and the first time you open one you are asked to acknowledge three things: you are 18 or over; nobody here is screened, vetted or verified; if something goes wrong, call 911. That acknowledgement is recorded.

Rides

Actual-cost sharing only. Say the split up front.
Your exact origin is shown only to a rider you accept; others see the metro.
Anyone can withdraw before the ride, without reason. Say so as early as you can.

Crash space

Free. Full stop.
A separate sleeping surface. No romantic or sexual solicitation, in the listing or in person.
Guests may leave and hosts may cancel at any time, for any reason or none. Nobody owes anybody a stay.
No minors, as guests or hosts.
References are written by members and moderated like everything else. They are not vetting.

Meetups

The host is a member, not staff. The meetup is member-only. It ends at a physical, public place.
Nobody is on the way if you press anything here. Peer alerts, if present, are best-effort broadcasts to members who opted in — not an emergency service.

9. Blocks: what they do and do not do

Blocking is yours to use, for any reason, without explanation. When you block a member:

They cannot see your profile, posts, comments, rides, listings, events or activity, and you cannot see theirs. Both directions, everywhere.
Any follows between you are removed. Pending ride and crash-space requests between you are withdrawn. RSVPs to each other’s meetups, memberships in each other’s trips, and pending crew requests to crews you steward are removed.
They are not told. Their view simply shows “not found” where you used to be.
They cannot mention you, reply to you, react to you, or bookmark you.

What a block does not do:

It is not moderation. It does not report anything, strike anyone, or hide their content from anyone but you. If something breaks a rule, report it as well.
It does not scrub the past from other people’s view. Their replies in threads you were both in remain for third parties.
It does not survive their erasure: if a blocked member deletes their account the block row goes with them; if they come back under a new account, that is a new account.
Blocks are private. Who blocked you is never shown, exported or admitted.

10. Reporting

Every post, comment, profile, ride, listing, meetup, event, crew, reply and reference has a Report control. Anyone — member or not — can also use the open report form. Give the address of the thing, pick the closest reason, and say why in your own words. Reports are read by a person. Targets are listed above; they are targets. Filing false reports to get someone else in trouble is harassment.

11. The moderation ladder

The tools, from lightest to heaviest. Which rung is used depends on the harm, not on how loud the report was.

Note. A word from a moderator. No record against you.
Hide. The content is taken off the site. It is not deleted; you get a statement of reasons and can appeal.
Strike. Recorded against the account for 12 months, in one of three kinds: guidelines, safety, copyright. Any strike removes posting trust for 30 days — your posts still land, but the throttles are tighter and some surfaces are closed.
Posting suspension. Read-only for a stated period. You can still report, appeal, export and delete.
Ban. The account is closed and the address may not register again. Three actioned copyright strikes in 12 months is an automatic ban. So is a confirmed under-age account, abuse material, or a credible threat to life.

Removal (as opposed to hiding) is reserved for content that must not be retrievable — abuse material, doxxing, intimate content — and for erasure.

12. Statements of reasons and appeals

Every hide, removal, strike, suspension and ban comes with a written statement: what was restricted and for how long; the facts relied on and whether a report triggered it; whether any automated step was involved (today: none — a person reviewed it); the rule here or the law elsewhere that applies; and how to appeal. Mass spam removals are the one exception where no statement is mailed.

Appeal by replying to the statement or writing to [email protected]. Say what was decided and why you think it was wrong. Where we can, a different person reads the appeal than the one who acted. If the appeal is granted the content is restored and the strike revoked, and the ledger says so. You can also go to court; nothing here stops you.

13. Changes to these guidelines

These are part of the Terms and change the same way: material changes re-prompt your acceptance, small ones are dated. The version at the top of this page is the one your acceptance is recorded against.